How to have harmonious
relationships is not a mystery. The first meaning of love has to do with
how you treat the person you care about. Creating a close, loving
relationship is not actually so difficult to understand! How to do it
can be learned. In fact, it has to be learned by everyone who knows how to sanctify their relationship rather than pollute it.
Anyone can do it, and there is no need to
sit at the feet of a "guru," spend thousands on training workshops, or
give up and settle for doing without the love you want.. . .
It all comes down to the simple, basic rules of listening, understanding, and empathizing with what is important to your loved one. Once you understand how treating others in loving ways works, your relationship cannot fail because of you To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as
they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in
the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the
person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree
with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people
can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure
or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the
other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can
show off with and tell people “This is *MY*
girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not
“own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who
always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you
disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live
their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them
no matter what.
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